Scheduled Sex

I know a lot of people have gotten the advice to schedule in a date night with the expectation of sex or simply sex at a certain hour... while this can sometimes be effective... often couples who implement this are having desire discrepancy issues and end up feeling pressured and/or resentful whether or not sexual encounters actually occur.
Instead create the opportunity for sex.. have your agreed day/time (whatever works), shower, prep - do what makes you feel good and ready for a sexual encounter... and enjoy the time with your partner, if sex occurs - great! If it doesn’t, you’ve enjoyed the day together in a no pressure zone.
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Some may disagree with this, and that’s totally ok - it’s important to do what works for you.
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This information is based on optimal sexual experience research done through the university of Ottawa.